看看哈佛圖書館里的二十條訓言： 1.此刻打盹，你將做夢；而此刻學習，你將圓夢。 2.我荒廢的今日，正是昨日殞身之人祈求的明日。 3.覺得為時已晚的時候，恰恰是最早的時候。 4.勿將今日之事拖到明日。 5.學習時的苦痛是暫時的，未學到的痛苦是終生的。 6.學習這件事，不是缺乏時間，而是缺乏努力。 7.幸福或許不排名次，但成功必須。 8.學習並不是人生的全部。但既然連人生的一部分―學習也無法征服，還能做什麼 呢？ 9.請享受無法回避的痛苦。 10.只有比別人更早、更勤奮地努力，才能嘗到成功的滋味。 11.誰也不能隨隨便便成功，它來自徹底的自我管理和毅力。 12.時間在流逝。 13.現在流的口水，將成為明天的眼淚。 14.狗一樣地學，紳士一樣地玩。 15.今天不走，明天要跑。 16.投資未來的人，是忠於現實的人。 17.受教育程度代表收入。 18.一天過完，不會再來。 19.即使現在，對手也不停地翻動書頁。 20.沒有艱辛，便無所獲。 This is 4am morning in the Harvard University Library =) This explains why there were 33 Nobel Price holders graduates from Harvard University and 7 US President graduates. 20 quotes above are the "guidelines" in its library. Monash University should follow that as well, open library 24hours within exam weeks (McGill Uni has that too), maybe that's why students are more hardworking and boost the Uni world ranking. 
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每当拿回成绩时，回家的路总是显得特别漫长与心寒。。。
不晓得为何心灵总是空虚，为何脚步变得沉重，前方渐渐与我远去。。。
有如我身在一膄永远到不到岸的轻舟上，茫茫人海，我究竟属于哪里？
是我变了？还是我跟不上时代的步伐？
很努力地尝试去改变自已，但到头来得到的只是海市蜃楼。
很想做回高中的我，从来不会有这种感觉。
当一个人失去了心灵时，他与行尸走肉没有什么分别，
我想我已到达了那个境界。
妈妈刚给我来电，我很想告诉她我又考到很差的成绩，
但我却说不出口，
不想伤了她的心，更不想家人为我担忧。
我已不再是那个曾经让他们引以为傲的黄毛小子，
我辜负了所有人对我的期望，
骗了全世界，但骗不了自已，
现在的我只是一个没有心灵的假面。
团歌又悠悠地响起了，
激励我得向前迈进；
当你我已经厌倦，
当承诺已将枯谢，
有说放弃未免太可惜；
多少次凝望着你，
多少次我问自已，
是否一切已成定局我告诉自已，
绝对不是！！
剩下两个月的时间去打拚，
我得破釜又沉舟。。。
L.O.V.E
I'm writing this post in the Uni library after having a quick look on Human Development textbook. Initially, I'm planning to find some clues for my interview next week but nothing in the book and when I'm in the border of disappointment, a topic in the book attracts me......
Love Relationship......What is love???I'm sure everyone encounter this question ever and ever again in their life. Some might have their answers but some are not. Love is one of those things everybody feels but nobody can define COMPLETELY. In an interesting series of studies, Sternberg found that love has three basic component: 1) passion, an intense physiological desire for someone; 2) intimacy, the feeling that one can share all one's thoughts and actuions with another; 3) commitment, the willingness to stay with a person through good and bad times. Ideally, a true love relationship will have all three components and a balance between them is very important to maintain a happier relationship.
Normally early in a romantic relationship, passion is usually high wheareas intimacy and commitment tend to be low. This is an infatuation (an intense, physically based relationship in which the two poeple have a high risk of misunderstanding and jealousy. As time goes, as passion fades, either a relationship acquires emotional intimacy or it's likely to end. Trust, honesty, openness, and acceptance must be a part of any strong relationship; when they are present, romantic love develops.
Everybody wants to be loved by somebody, but actually having it happen is fraught with difficulties. We need to remember that love is two-sided: it can give you great ecstasy and so can it cause you great pain. Yet, most of us are willing to take the risk like me. So, how do people fall in love???? I found the answer in the theory of assortative mating, which states that people finds partners based on their similarity to each other. Interesting right, it states that healthy people tend to be in relationship with healthy people and same goes to level of education. Does this mean that a doctor wont have a good marriage with a dancer as they dont have same level of education?????
Another interesting theory mentions that people apply three filters when they meet someone: 1) Stimulus, do the person's physical appearance, social class and manners match your own? 2) Values, do the person's values regarding sex, religion, politic match yours? 3) Role, do her ideas about relationship, communication style, gender role match yours? If the answer to all is "yes", then you are likely to form a couple. I found that it's easy to say than do for these theories. We might found someone who matches all three filters but she/he doesn't like you, then how??
Another interesting fact, research shows that women tends to choose a more mascular man as a person with whom to have an exciting short-term relationship BUT tend to select a more feminine looking men for their husband or as the type of man their parents would want them to date. So should men be mascular or feminine??????
I'm not asking everyone to follow whatever theories or books to find your love ones. Loving someone is coming out from feeling but not based on the theory. But these theories will help you to understand more about a relationship and how to maintain it effectively. Loving someone is easy but to be loved by someone is not easy.
It's time for me to have my lunch and continue my day. Do leave some comments as what you think about love or regarding this post =)
Love Relationship......What is love???I'm sure everyone encounter this question ever and ever again in their life. Some might have their answers but some are not. Love is one of those things everybody feels but nobody can define COMPLETELY. In an interesting series of studies, Sternberg found that love has three basic component: 1) passion, an intense physiological desire for someone; 2) intimacy, the feeling that one can share all one's thoughts and actuions with another; 3) commitment, the willingness to stay with a person through good and bad times. Ideally, a true love relationship will have all three components and a balance between them is very important to maintain a happier relationship.
Normally early in a romantic relationship, passion is usually high wheareas intimacy and commitment tend to be low. This is an infatuation (an intense, physically based relationship in which the two poeple have a high risk of misunderstanding and jealousy. As time goes, as passion fades, either a relationship acquires emotional intimacy or it's likely to end. Trust, honesty, openness, and acceptance must be a part of any strong relationship; when they are present, romantic love develops.
Everybody wants to be loved by somebody, but actually having it happen is fraught with difficulties. We need to remember that love is two-sided: it can give you great ecstasy and so can it cause you great pain. Yet, most of us are willing to take the risk like me. So, how do people fall in love???? I found the answer in the theory of assortative mating, which states that people finds partners based on their similarity to each other. Interesting right, it states that healthy people tend to be in relationship with healthy people and same goes to level of education. Does this mean that a doctor wont have a good marriage with a dancer as they dont have same level of education?????
Another interesting theory mentions that people apply three filters when they meet someone: 1) Stimulus, do the person's physical appearance, social class and manners match your own? 2) Values, do the person's values regarding sex, religion, politic match yours? 3) Role, do her ideas about relationship, communication style, gender role match yours? If the answer to all is "yes", then you are likely to form a couple. I found that it's easy to say than do for these theories. We might found someone who matches all three filters but she/he doesn't like you, then how??
Another interesting fact, research shows that women tends to choose a more mascular man as a person with whom to have an exciting short-term relationship BUT tend to select a more feminine looking men for their husband or as the type of man their parents would want them to date. So should men be mascular or feminine??????
I'm not asking everyone to follow whatever theories or books to find your love ones. Loving someone is coming out from feeling but not based on the theory. But these theories will help you to understand more about a relationship and how to maintain it effectively. Loving someone is easy but to be loved by someone is not easy.
It's time for me to have my lunch and continue my day. Do leave some comments as what you think about love or regarding this post =)
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